In days of old it was completely appropriate to ask to see a picture of one's children, pets, or perhaps a husband or wife because those are the appropriate things one might carry around photos of in his or her wallet or purse. Nowadays, the whole photo frontier has changed completely. Most people don't carry around wallet size photos anymore because they can just store photos on their phone. It's convenient, yes, but at the same time it stresses me out. And this is why...
Let's say I just graduated from college and I started dating this guy and all of my friends from school don't know this guy so they demand more information. Well, naturally when I talk about him they are gonna wanna know what he looks like. Well, in the olden days they would have had to wait for an in-person introduction because, back then, people didn't trade pictures of themselves on the first date to show to their friends for approval. That would have been absurd! But now, with Facebook, there is an expectation that you will immediately be able to produce a picture of the significant other. And so when I have these conversations I brace myself for the inevitable, "Lemme see a picture of him..." routine. This is where the stress builds. What picture do I show them??? The one of him making a stank face at a party? No, too informal. His headshot? Too formal. This picture he took of himself in the mirror? Perhaps... but maybe they'll think he's conceited or something. This picture of him with friends? Too far away, you can't see him that well. This picture of him in a show? No it doesn't show his personality in the right way. THERE ARE SO MANY OPTIONS!! And if you're like me, you wanna choose a photo that best represents the person you are falling for. Am I crazy? Maybe. But, in a way, the picture is replacing that initial introduction so for him and for me, I want it to be a good first impression.
So I choose a picture and then there is the awkward moment where they look at the picture and you wait for the, "Wow, he's cute!" or "Oh, you'll make such a cute couple." I dunno. Maybe it isn't that weird. But, it feels weird to me. Like I'm trying to sell him or something. I'd rather go back to the days of in-person introductions and real photos. So much more gratifying, no? I think so.
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